I have been reading The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruis and I am going to quote a paragraph from that book. He is also the author of The Four Agreements, a book read over and over by many.
“You are alive because of the power of God, which is the power of Life, but because you are not able to think at the level of the mind, you forget what you really are.” “God has just come to tell you—–to tell the God in you—-to be aware, to make a choice, to have the courage to work through all your fears and change them, so you are no longer afraid of Love.”
There are times that we just want to hide under the covers, shrink from our lives, and have a huge “pity-party.” Poor little me. I did not get the great love of my life. I have not found a soul connection. I am alone. No one loves me. I am not pretty enough. I am not skinny enough. I am not rich enough. I am not smart enough. What is wrong with me…..why dd this happen to me. And when will things change.
“Comparison is the thief of happiness!” Somebody said that. I don’t know who, but I only know it to be one of the truest statements that addresses that defeated feeling we all have or have had when it seems like everybody else has it all going on. What about me? What about the unfairness of it all. I just heard this statement this past week: “I must have been a real awful person in my last life.” In other words my life sucks, I have no love, and it must be fate.
In my belief system, “we make our own happiness or unhappiness.” So holding to that statement if you are in a pity-party with yourself, what could you do to bring love into your life and gain the feeling that you are so desparately seeking? There is only one way I have found. By giving it out. Start with yourself. Be compassionate with your deficits. Be allowing of imperfection. Be willing to look in the mirror and love that beauty staring back at YOU. See love around you. Write some positive affirmations and quotes and paste them all around. Remind yourself daily of how special and valuable you are to one other person. If you were not to show up for your life today…..who would miss you? I bet there is more of a list there then you might believe. Even if it is your cat or dog, a sister, friend, co-worker. You are a star that lights up someones day. Just for today, hold fast to that belief. Love yourself, and then go out and shine a bit brighter. I promise you someone will notice and feel all the better because of it.
Arise tomorrow and do it again. Look at the Sun in the morning. It rose again. Look at the moon and stars at night. They are still shining brightly. Take it one day, and then the next. Pray for a more abundant life, and be willing to let go of the baggage of the PAST.